Hi! After spending 6 months on Tinder, I am here with the safest Tinder sex guide for women seeking some casual, harmless fun on a boring Friday night.
I am not even going to dwell on my experiences but jump to my focus point of this blog – SAFETY. As a woman, finding a match for a fun Friday is not difficult (apologies for sounding so biased), but I was more worried about my safety.
What if the guy turned out to be a creep and did things to me without my consent?
What if the guy turned out to be a complete loser, and the experience wasn’t even worth my time?
There’s so much that can go wrong – I don’t even want to talk about it. So, it is better to be safe than sorry.
Thankfully, I am not sorry about my 6-month stint on Tinder – presenting the safest Tinder sex guide on the internet. It always works for me – hopefully, it will work for you too.
In this blog, you will learn:
how to meet like-minded people on Tinder for a casual hookup.
how to be safe while hooking up on dating apps like Tinder.
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Tinder Sex Guide: Setting Up A Profile Solely For Hookups
To cut a long story short, I didn’t intend to find love on Tinder six months ago. The idea was to find a man for a fun Friday night – apologies if I sound too forward, ladies!
So, the first thing I did was set up a profile that made one thing obvious – my purpose to be on the app. I wasn’t there to find love; I was there to hook up and not fall for anyone.
You can’t put up pictures that communicate commitment – that way, you will end up with matches looking for the same. You need to create a profile that communicates what you are looking for – and here’s how you can go about it.
1. Write A Tinder Hookup Bio
This is literally your space to communicate what you are seeking on the app. Just remember that you must always be authentic.
An ideal bio for hooking up on Tinder should be fun, flirty, and sexy – it’s all about the vibe, ladies!
Here are some examples:
- I’m not the whisky you crave but the water you need.
- You want a Queen? Earn one. You want a wh**re? Buy one. You want a dumb bitch who will be easy? Hi, here I’m!
- If I told you I am a UPS worker, would you let me handle your package?
- I’m here for some revenge sex.
- Take me out to dinner first if you want to get inside my pants.
| Dos | Don’ts |
|---|---|
| Don’t write anything that shows you are looking for commitment. | Avoid being too artsy – don’t copy any quotes from the internet. |
| Be flirty – but don’t forget to add the right amount of humor. | Don’t be too crude or blunt. You have to avoid expletives. |
2. Connect Your Social Media Account
Nobody likes getting spammed or lied to, for that matter. There are so many creeps on dating apps, always working hard to ruin the whole experience for normal people. When swiping right on an account, it is imperative to check if they have connected to any social media app on their profiles.
Similarly, when you are setting up a profile for some fun Tinder sex, don’t forget to connect your social media. If you can connect your Instagram to your Tinder account, you will get more matches since people can confirm that you are who you proclaim to be on the app.
| Dos | Don’ts |
|---|---|
| Link social media accounts that are active. | Don’t link accounts that are inactive or where you don’t post frequently. |
| Post frequently on the social media platform. | Don’t ignore friend/follow requests from your matches. |
3. Add Some Hot Pictures
Sis, this is what matters – your pictures can make or break it for you on Tinder! You can’t upload photos that are homely, innocent, or sweet. The overall aesthetics of your photos should be casual, fun, and flirty.
| Dos | Don’ts |
|---|---|
| Add at least 3 pictures – don’t forget to mix and match. | Avoid uploading pictures that show a sweet, innocent side. |
| Upload photos that accentuate your features and highlight your fun, flirty side. | Don’t post anything that is too sexual or violent – seduce them, do not turn them off. |
4. Define Distance And Age Limits
Unless you are someone who travels frequently, it is best to customize specific settings on your Tinder. That way, you can have some control over who you are matching with – how far they are location, and what is their age?
| Dos | Don’ts |
|---|---|
| Select the distance you would be comfortable traveling. | Don’t plan your hookups at any unfamiliar or strange location. |
| While choosing the ideal age group, be careful of minors who lie about their age on the app. | Avoid lying about your age. Report to anyone who you think is doing so. |
Tinder Sex Guide: Tips That Always Work!
Just setting up the right profile will not help (or maybe it will if you are smart like that). But if you are new to this, you may feel conflicted and worried about safety. But you don’t need to feel like that, considering – it is perfectly fine to worry about your safety and privacy.
So, I’ve 5 golden tips after spending 6 months on Tinder, hooking up with hotties! Let’s check them out!
1. Be Authentic
Like I was saying, you have to be authentic at all costs. Don’t become someone you are not – don’t talk about commitment when you are not looking for it. You will get more chances of hooking up if you are honest about your intentions.
Ladies, be original, be authentic, be beautiful – and the world will be at your feet!
2. Remember Sexual Tension > Sex
The thing about life in general is if you are hungry, everything will taste good. But if you are not hungry, even some fancy and delectable food will end up tasting bland.
So, while sending your opening message on Tinder, remember this golden rule! Once you have matched with someone who is looking for the same thing, ensure that you guys have some sexual tension.
Always remember – sexual tension > sex!
Once the conversation begins to roll, start building on it – try to look for hints that they are into the same thing. Also, ensure that all your responses are flirty and unpredictable. Your conversation with your match cannot be something they are used to in the real world.
3. Timing Is Of The Essence
Don’t take plenty of time – the whole I-will-text-back-later ideology doesn’t matter. You want to hook up, you don’t want to make your match wait. The more you wait or beat around the bush, the more chances of getting delayed. Always remember – timing is of the essence!
So, just go for it – ask for a contact number or be bold and ask them out. If your match has similar intentions, they will agree. And well, if they don’t, just move on.
4. Add Some Emotions To The Mix
Here’s what you must remember – facts don’t create attraction. Emotions do!
So, instead of focusing on getting to know your match better, opt for some fun banter. For example, one guy asked me about my hobbies – and I said I loved creating to-do lists. So, he went ahead and said, what’s on the top of your to-do list? I replied with a ‘you.’
And then, before he could say anything, I said, ‘Just kidding.’ So, I planted the idea inside his head and moved on from sex – that creates sexual tension and attraction. If you have added some hot pictures to the mix, you are set.
5. Avoid Making Common Errors
It doesn’t matter if you are hot AF – if you make these 3 mistakes, you are not getting laid. Yep, no Tinder sex for you if you make these mistakes.
- Using Selfies: My research says selfies can distort how you look up to a solid 30%. Plus, selfies won’t give your match any clues about what you are like. Instead, it might make them wonder whether or not you are vain and annoying.
- Having Too Many Details In The Background: This is a simple science – people don’t think much when they swipe. It’s literally the digital equivalent of lust at first sight. Too many details in your photos will only make it worse for you.
- Not Putting Effort On Your First Picture: First impressions are important. Naturally, your first photo has to be good – like really good! No unflattering angles, poor-quality images, or even pictures that don’t show your face properly.
Tinder Sex Guide: How To Hookup On Tinder Safely?
The whole idea of meeting someone like-minded, someone new, some adventurous, is thrilling – until something goes wrong.
I have been catfished, stalked, and even mistreated to an extent on dates with people I have met for the first time. Having been through that, I still don’t want to go on dates like an anxious loser who looks over their shoulder every 5 minutes.
So, this time, when I returned to Tinder, being safe was my number one priority after a few horrible experiences in the past.
Here’s what I did to ensure I was having fun but being as safe as possible:
1. Background Checks Are Mandatory
Sadly, the world is not as rosy as we girls would like it to be – we must deal with the world’s fair share of creeps and psychos.
Naturally, it is best to find out a little more about the guy you are planning to meet. Check if they have connected any social media account on their Tinder profile. You can also Google them – if it’s a legit person, something will definitely pop up, like a LinkedIn account.
While it is thrilling to meet someone new on an exciting date, the entire experience is ruined when you are catfished on the same date.
2. Always Meet In Public
This is like basic safety 101. You should always meet someone new at a public place – inviting someone over when you don’t even know them is too risky. Instead, go to some bar, talk a little, work that tension, and you are all set to go.
Do you feel comfortable? Do they behave properly? If you don’t like their offline self, there is no pressure to go through with the hookup. It’s best to be cautious – instead of regretting the same later.
Tip: keep some extra cash inside your bra for an emergency exit. You can also consider wearing comfy shoes and keeping a pepper spray on you if you have to defend yourself and run.
3. Trust Your Gut
Trust your gut at all points.
Never say ‘yes’ to anything you don’t feel comfortable about – anything you don’t feel like doing. If your match says you are not adventurous because you are saying ‘no’ to something, it doesn’t mean you have to change your mind.
If your gut says ‘no,’ it’s ‘no.’ So, this Tinder date I met a few months back made fun of me because I wanted to meet at a cafe or a bar and not go over to his place directly. He kept making fun, and then he insisted, but by then, I was so done with him that I ended the whole thing.
Ladies, please be strict about consent. You don’t have to share your number – talk on Telegram instead. Feel free to decide where you want to meet, what to consume, and whether or not to go somewhere private.
4. Arrange For A Lookout
Come on, you must let at least one person know where you are – maybe a girl group chat, your bestie, or your sister.
Even Tinder has this included in their advisory documentation. While stepping out on dates, I shared my live location in the girl group chat. That way, my friends knew my location and I wasn’t worried about my safety.
5. Report Anything Fishy
THIS ONE IS VERY IMPORTANT.
The best example of #womensupportingwomen is exactly this – if you come across a fake profile or someone creepy, report them. Share the profile with your friends or on social media platforms – so that other women don’t fall into the same mess.
Do you remember the British documentary The Tinder Swindler? It wasn’t about some creepy man scamming women – it was about how easy for the same creep to get away with scamming so many women.
Happy hooking up, ladies – be safe, be beautiful!
