Finding the perfect Tinder conversation starters is perhaps more difficult than finding true love on a dating app.

And ladies, you know what? We can do better than ‘hey!’ 

So, if you haven’t heard, beginning a conversation – and that too – on dating apps is not always fun (at least for me). Hence, why Tinder and I are not besties! 

But then think about it: While I’m completely sure that a whopping majority of us would have preferred to receive the first text from their adorable matches, there comes a day in all our lives when you must take the plunge and send the first message. 

Moreover, sometimes it is okay to take initiative and break the ice. I mean, what if the love of your life is sitting with their phone, wondering how to make a move, and you are doing the same? 

I mean, ladies, it’s 2025, and since we are doing everything else, why avoid this? Plus, it is not that deep, really! 

Also, I am here to help! I have spoken to relationship experts, self-proclaimed extroverts, and experienced dating app users to compile a list of the best Tinder conversation starters. What is the common factor binding these responses? All of them guarantee an instant response! 

Stay tuned!

50 Tinder Conversation Starters That Always Get Me Responses!

For me, I believe that usually the best conversation ice-breakers are personal. These are also curiosity-provoking or slightly intriguing and witty or funny. 

Always remember that the main purpose is to begin a meaningful or long-lasting conversation: the idea is to start a conversation that will survive. And how exactly can you do that?

So, without wasting time, let’s check out the best Tinder conversation starters that will immediately get you off your phone, sending you on an actual date ASAP!

1. Start With Something You Can Spot In Their Profile

Yep! This is my favorite conversation ice-breaker! 

You can always start with something that you can spot on your match’s profile. And on that note, it is always best to be very specific. 

Talking about something you saw on your match’s profile always works because it highlights that you are being thoughtful. However, if it’s a profile that hardly has anything and there’s not much to work with in terms of interactive content (SIGH!!), then you can just comment on their pictures or even preferences. 

So, the thing is to work with what you have at your disposal. 

Examples:

1. I was kinda hoping we would end up matching ☺️. Also, it does look like we like a lot of the same things.

2. Your job sounds so interesting! Tell me what being a (job role) typically consists of?

3. Just FYI, it might sound a little weird, but are you wearing lenses? Or is that your natural eye color? 

4. I’m new in (city name). Looks like you are a foodie, and I could use some help finding a few good places to eat. Any restaurant recommendations? 

5. You look pretty cute in all your photos. So, I HAD to hit you up. Hehe ☺️☺️

6. You love sitcoms – it’s obvious from your profile. Will you reply if I confess about how I have never watched The Office?

7. You travel so much, it makes me somewhat jealous looking at your pictures. Tell me, what does an ideal vacation itinerary consist of? 

8. You are scared of spiders, and I know how to kill them for you. We are made for each other, or what?

9. You are so beautiful that I forgot about my conversation starters – and now, I’m left with ‘hey.’ So, hey. 

10. Your cat looks so adorable – are they adorable? Also, what are their pronouns? 

2. Ask Open-Ended (Not Vague) Questions

This one’s gold! You can also consider starting a conversation with open-ended questions – it’s an excellent way of setting yourself up for instant replies because you are literally asking for them! 

Moreover, it is best to aim somewhat higher than a simple, ‘how was your day?’ 

Instead, you can ask intentional questions or experiment with open-ended questions since such questions are more likely to help you weed out the matches who are not going to put in the effort to know you better or even have meaningful conversations. 

In addition, it is safe to assume that we come across so much dissatisfaction, overwhelming responses, and bad behavior on Tinder or other dating apps is only because people are interacting without intention. 

As a result, their brains end up falling into a cognitive overload, especially with so many options at their disposal. So, if you want to build meaningful connections and avoid getting burnt out, you can always ask some open-ended questions and build connections.

Just remember that open-ended and intentional questions will guarantee your responses, but don’t be vague. Nobody likes vague anymore. 

Examples:

1. I have been arguing with a friend since morning, and we cannot agree. So, did the egg or the chicken come first?

2. You are too pretty to be on Tinder. Why did we not meet sooner?

3. If you have an extra hour daily, how would you actually spend it?

4. If animals could converse, which one do you think would be the most annoying?

5. So, how do we tell our parents about our first conversation?

6. That jacket seems very comfortable. Can we share it?

7. If it were possible for you to blink and go anywhere, then where would you be right now?

8. Alright, I’ve to say it, you are gorgeous. Now that I have gotten this out of the way, how is your day going?

9. I’m not a fan of workouts. But does swiping on Tinder count?

10. What are your plans for Sunday? Because I’m free.

3. No Bad Vibes, Please!

Yes, I have just talked about how you should aim to be personal and specific. However, in the quest to make things personal, don’t forget that it is vital to keep your first conversation light. 

Also, you can consider incorporating some humor in your conversation starter to make things light, fun, and breezy. But then again, don’t get too self-deprecating – it’s too soon, really! In addition, it is safe to steer clear of jokes about dating or dating apps in general. It is very common, a major turn-off, and just not a good 

Examples:

1. Hello, stranger. Could you not be a stranger anymore?

2. I can’t remember speaking to you for a long time. It’s been ages. We really have to change that!

3. I really want to ask you out. But I think it is better to start by sending you a text.

4. Flirting here sounds fun. But it’s so much harder to lean in and kiss you…

5. Since I’m making the first move and texting you, I’m hoping you will ask me out. 

6. Umm, I think it’s a little weird that we are looking for the same things on Tinder, but we haven’t even talked yet.

7. Hi, I’m here! What were your other two wishes?

8. I always pursue my dreams! So, can I have your Instagram?

9. On a scale of 1 to the United States, how free are you this weekend?

10. You have to go on a date with me if I’m wrong. But aren’t unicorns real? 

4. Try This Three-Step Formula

This is one of the best Tinder conversation starters on the list – it always works!

So, here are three steps that you need to follow to come up with the best conversation starter on Tinder:

• First, start with picking something from your match’s profile that actually stands out. 
• Second, write something witty or funny about the same, and then share something personal. Also, you can explain why you find it so relatable. 
• Finally, end the message with an intentional question.

Example:

For instance, if your Tinder match mentions loving baseball, then you can write something on the lines of, “Hey, I guess you are a huge baseball fan. The last time I watched (name of a team) play, I ended up witnessing (insert incident)! I was super bummed!

If you could invite some famous baseball player over for dinner, who would that be?”

So, this way, you can start talking to your match in a way they feel a nice connection – your match should feel seen. After all, this is what makes dating online so personal.

5. Skip The Small Talk And Just Ask Them Out

One of my favorite Tinder conversation starters on the list is this bold strategy!

While it is bold, it is also universally successful – the success rate is universal. However, if you are planning to take the chance, you can just skip the initial chit-chat and suggest going out. How about a simple, “I have an extra pass to this concert. It’s an Indie band I really like. Do you wanna come?”

Come on, ladies! It is a unique way to catch your match’s attention. Also, it shows that you are serious about stepping out on dates. Of course, you are on Tinder to meet new people and not just rack up a bunch of unnecessary Tinder pals! 

Examples:

1. Can we skip the small talk and plan our first date instead?

2. People say patience is an excellent virtue. But I couldn’t wait to text you.

3. Dropping by at Trader Joe’s, do you need anything?

4. Hopefully, Tinder will lead to a good meal this weekend?

5. What are you doing later today? Up for dinner and a couple of beers?

6. Just so you know, we are going to hang you this weekend. 

7. Even if I am nervous, I don’t think I will need a beer on our first day. You are enough to intoxicate me. 

8. Let’s just cut to the chase? Here’s my number – let’s meet up?

9. So, when are we stepping out for dinner?

10. This is me asking you out. Want to grab a coffee on Sunday?

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