How to talk on Tinder? Well, starting a conversation on any dating app can feel very similar to walking a rope – it’s all about standing out. But at the same time, do not appear too strong or bold with your openers. 

So, whether you are exhausted from sending out ‘heys’ or just feel like ensuring your first text makes a lasting impact, I am here to help!

Yes, yes, you want to be authentic and different – how else will you stand out and make your connections smile? All you need are texts that are personal and not generic. The idea is to keep things light, flirty, and fun! 

Also, it’s best not to depend much on compliments – no point pleasing anyone with compliments. 

On that note, here’s my guide based on my personal experience and conversations with 50 active Tinder users. 

In this article, I am going to break down:

• The basics of starting a conversation.
• The most effective ways of making the right impression.
• The most common mistakes people make.

Stay tuned.

How To Talk On Tinder? 4 Golden Tips To Remember!

When you are starting a conversation on any dating app like Tinder, here are four things you need to always remember:

1. Be Different

The point is to stand out. So, why send a message to your match that they have already received before? I mean, if I have ten matches and I think all of them are very hot, who will get a reply from me? That one match that will stand out with his authenticity and say something unique! 

2. Tailor Your Texts To The Profile Of The Match

This one’s highly important – what’s the point of starting a conversation over something random? It is best to pick topics that your match is interested in! For instance, if your match is a dog parent, then you can talk about pets, pet care, and dogs. 

3. Keep Things Flirty And Light

Of course, you don’t want to seem too friendly in your messages. But that doesn’t mean you are going to be a rude, sleazy person. Trust me, nobody likes rude strangers! Instead, how about keeping things playful? 

4. Avoid Too Many Compliments

It is best to avoid being too complimentary. The thing is, when you swipe right, it already shows your interest in a person – you are already telling your match that you find them attractive. So, there is not much to gain when you express your interest with compliments again. 

How To Talk On Tinder? 4 Best Ways To Start A Conversation

So, if you want to know how to talk on Tinder, it’s best to skip the ‘hi,’ or ‘ how is it going?’ – the point is to be memorable. And here’s how that works: 

1. Personalize Your Openers

It is always best to check your match’s profile. Of course, everyone loves talking about themselves. So, it is best to find something specific and start talking about the same. 

So, here are some ways to start a conversation with something personal and specific:

• (If they are into outdoor adventures) I am making a wild guess here – you are the type of person who would wake up at 7 AM for a hike. And Me? Still trying to make it out of bed.

• (If they are into books) Book freak! I like that! Which two books are you reading currently? I know you are reading two books together! 

• I knew it! Elle magazine’s horoscope predictions had already warned me about matching with a cute guy who is into (something that’s on his profile). Guess my mercury is finally beginning to rise. 

2. Always Make People Laugh

Your sense of humor can easily break the ice and help you grab your match’s attention! For instance, if you end up matching with a pet parent (they are literally everywhere), just throw in a playful line and say, “You are super cute!! On top of that, your two-legged kiddo isn’t any less!”

3. Tease But Don’t Please

As I was saying, keep things fun and flirty – don’t be too friendly. The idea is to keep things flirty – you are not on Tinder to make friends! You are on a dating app to find Prince Charming or at least pick up a few memorable dates in the process! 

So, if you end up giving too many compliments to your match in the beginning, it can show that you are too interested in them. And that truly does not make any sense since you don’t even know them properly. 

Instead, a much healthier and fun way to start talking is by teasing them somewhat: this clearly shows how confident you are. Also, it is very sexy. 

On that note, here are some conversation starters:

• (If she has a selfie taken at an angle) Okay, I can see that you have got your best angle locked down in this selfie. But what are you hiding on the other side of your face? A secret cult tattoo?

• (Blend sugary compliments with plenty of spice for the right balance) You are beautiful, much like a Greek goddess. However, I remember from history lessons how those women were all absolutely crazy…

4. Be Confident But Don’t Be Cocky

Confidence is very sexy – I find confident people attractive, hot, and so irresistible! And most of us will agree that talking to a confident stranger is so much better than trying to initiate a bland conversation with someone boring. 

On that note, here’s how you can appear to be confident with your openers:

• TBH, I only swiped right because you do seem like someone who can easily beat me in Mortal Kombat. 

• You might think I am a red flag, but my toxic trait is believing that in a food challenge, I could eat all the food easily. So, what’s your toxic trait? 

• Since we have matches, I have been meaning to tell you that I wear knee-high socks to bed every day. I know it’s a sort of deal breaker for many – what about you? 

While these strategies might not seem like the best ways, they are your golden ticket to begin an actual conversation – one conversation your match might definitely reply to. 

It’s A Match: Know How To Talk On Tinder! 

So, now that you know how to talk on Tinder, here’s what you have to remember while starting any conversation on the dating app.

Always keep it original, fun, and flirty! 

Tinder is like an escape from daily life – people are literally seeking some excitement and even entertainment in some cases. With some luck, you will find yourself stumbling across someone beautiful and amazing. 

All you have to do is give your matches something different, something unique from everyone else – and trust me on this one, everyone will love you! 

Where most people are engaging in predictable conversations, you will be doing something unique! In fact, ask questions they have never heard, tease them on their opinions, push them away playfully, share something fun about your personal life, and pretend like they are falling for you! 

It’s that simple, really – you will see that your matches are getting hooked to you – more importantly, you will see how excited people get while meeting you. Don’t forget to let me know about your experience in the comments below.

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